In an attempt to take a step back from social media and in an attempt to do more journaling on paper...it's been awhile. And, in all honesty, might be awhile before blogging after this post. But I absolutely HAVE to share this story because 1) I'm a proud Aunt Sarah, 2) I'm a proud big sister, 3) I never want to forget the details of this story (bear with me, this may get lengthy, and perhaps a little mushy).
I'm headed to bed, the next day promises to be a VERY BUSY day with meetings, appointments, and classes from start to a late finish.
My sister is due with baby #2 in 3 weeks and her husband had to leave town for work. As I lay in bed, something in the back of my mind tells me to bring my cell phone to the bedroom in case she needs anything...I don't go back to get the phone...she'll be fine...she would call Matt's phone or the house phone if she REALLY needs anything. Wednesday night, 11:30 pm, I drift off to sleep.
3:23 am the house phone rings...Matt answers, "Are you having a baby? OOOOOOHHHH sister!" I spring to my feet faster than I have ever moved before, get dressed. Matt hangs up the phone and says, "Becca thinks her water broke!" I am at my sister's 10 minutes later. She is surprisingly very calm and is really more concerned about the million things on her to-do-list for the next couple of days as she repeats over and over, "I am so annoyed, he is not supposed to come this early." I ask, "Are you having contractions?" Becca: "I don't know what a contraction feels like?" Yes, the drugs were that good when she had Zeda. :-)
We quickly get a bag packed for her, grab Jarrod a few things (as he is on his way home from St. Louis), and pack a few items for the baby. Becca thought she had another 3 weeks to get all of these things done... We decide that leaving Zeda asleep is the best choice at this point and call my dad to come sit with her while Becca and I go to the hospital.
4:10 am Jarrod is on his way home from St. Louis, my mom is on her way home from Kansas City, and Becca and I are on our way to St. Johns. On the way there, the pain comes, every 2-2 1/2 minutes...she now knows what a contraction feels like.
4:30 am We check into triage and at 4:31 we ask when she can get the epidural. :-) All of the nurses are very calm and simply talk through the admission process, schedule her for labs, all required to get the epidural. The first nurse checks her and found 2 things...1) The fluid is in fact amniotic fluid and 2) she is dilated to a 3. Great...how about that epidural?
5:20 am We get moved to Labor & Delivery where the labs will FINALLY be drawn so she can get one step closer to getting that epidural...she really needs one at this point. I'm watching the monitor for contractions and trying to talk her through them which is really not helping much. It takes two nurses to get an IV placed and the kind doctor who will be placing the epidural has spoken to her and made her watch a ridiculous video. Becca looks at me like, "yeah, got it, don't care about the risks, just give it to me already." Then we wait...and wait...and wait...
In the meantime, I am writing emails for Becca as she struggles through her very closely spaced contractions. I talk to Jarrod on the phone as he is getting closer and closer to Springfield and even though she is in so much discomfort I still really thought Jarrod had plenty of time...come to find out, so did Jarrod.
For those of you who know my sister, you know that she is pretty calm, relatively quiet, and laid back...until she is having a baby with no epidural.
5:55 am My mom arrives, and we have to call for the nurse because it's been awhile since we have seen her and Becca is in A LOT of pain. Turns out she was in the middle of a "shift change"...really? While we are waiting for her labs that say she can have her epidural?
Pain increases, contractions come faster...
Sherri, Jarrod's mom, arrives and the three of us feel completely helpless watching her struggle...still no nurse...we call again.
6:45 am Sherri texts Jarrod to see where he is and he is walking into the building, thank goodness!
6:50 am Jarrod arrives. Becca, still waiting for her labs and therefore the epidural. No nurse... Jarrod looks up at me with a look I will never forget, complete desperation, "When will they come back in, isn't there anything we can do?" Becca announces she has to push. We call the nurse...FINALLY someone comes!
The nurse decides to check her so my mom, Sherri, and I step out into the hallway leaving most of our items in the room as we assume we will be right back. The 3 of us are GREAT at listening through doors and we hear the nurse tell Becca she is at an 8 or a 9....WHAT!?! I turn to Sherri, "It's too late for an epidural, isn't it!?!" I am frantically texting Matt telling him of the status, receiving many texts for updates, trying to finish emails canceling many of my appointments, ect. Next, we hear the unwrapping of all sorts of equipment, my mom turns to me and says, "Oh my gosh, I think she is going to have that baby right now." We don't go back into the room, I don't get anymore "update texts" sent...
6:55 am The three of us press up against the door...and hear the doctor's voice (we were informed when we arrived at triage that his shift started at 7:00 am). He steps right into the room and starts coaching her to, "PUSH!!!". The three of us are in the hall, crying, 1) because we are about to have a baby! and 2) the obvious pain Becca was in was heartbreaking. The next thing I hear is a nurse say to Becca in a sweet and excited tone of voice, "Look! Open your eyes!" I knew at that moment he was here. We hear them coach her to give one more BIG PUSH and the ooohs and aaaahs start...
7:05 am Ezra Randall Murdaugh made his very early, very fast, very surprising debut.
Ezra Randall born Thursday, March 29th, 2012 at 7:05am. 8 pounds 1 ounce, 22 inches long
What a story...my favorite part is the role I got to play in aiding my little sister. I feel so blessed to have had the experience. I am your typical first born child, so desperate to take care of people and wanting to help and here was the unexpected, yet perfect, opportunity. I am here to tell you she did AMAZING! She is a rockstar! One week later, her and Ezra are doing phenomenal! Big Sister Zeda (also typical first born) is very "helpful" and was very excited to show off her little brother!
Catch Becca's side of the story here.
Thursday, December 8, 2011
Today Matt and I are celebrating our 11th Wedding Anniversary...I cannot...CANNOT believe it's been 11 years. Time flies when you're having fun! Thought I would share a little bit about what Matt and I have experienced over the past 11 years counting from 1 to 11...here we go, this may get cheesey! :-)
ONE - We have one kitty, who was a wedding present actually... She's still kickin'!
TWO - The number of beautiful babies we share - when you marry someone you don't necessarily think about how you are going to enter parenthood with that person and man, Matt Murray has certainly impressed me!
THREE - The number of places we have called home, each one with A LOT of memories.
FOUR - Four weeks is the longest we have gone without seeing each other as a married couple. I was knee-deep in Grad School projects in Illinois and he was working hard in Missouri. Definitely tough to go that long and definitely have a new appreciation for married couples who have to spend a long time apart.
FIVE - The number of years we have spent in our marriage as parents. Jey celebrates his 5th birthday next week...which is pretty unbelievable too. While kids are super fun I treasure the six years we spent learning about each other prior to learning how to be parents.
SIX - The amount of time it took to drive between Bloomington, IL and Springfield, MO - after living apart for 1 year, we could make that drive in our sleep...and sometimes were able to make it happen in 5.5 hours. ;-)
SEVEN - The time at which our play "The Christmas Story" starts where we are going for our Anniversary date! :-)
EIGHT - The day in December that we got married, which really didn't have a special meaning when we chose it but it definitely does now!
NINE - The number of cars we have owned since we've been married.
TEN - The number of acres we are currently trying to buy. :-)
ELEVEN - The number of years we have spent together...married...so far. ;-)
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
This year, a few of my facebook friends have been posting things that they are thankful for each day of November leading up to Thanksgiving. I have loved reading them and have learned a lot about people through reading these posts. Because I haven't been participating I thought I would make one big list and use it as a blogpost.
I will preface this list by stating the obvious ...this is by no means a comprehensive list and some of these are supposed to be a little facetious. :-)
1. I am ever so thankful for my family - from the youngest (Ava) to the oldest (I think Papa - Matt's grandpa is the oldest at the moment?) and EVERY SINGLE person in between.
2. I am so thankful for my friends and very thankful that my family are some of the best friends I have.
3. I am thankful for my church - not the biggest church with the fanciest methods but you will NEVER EVER find a group of people more loving, giving, and committed to the Lord than those at Glidewell Baptist Church.
4. I am thankful for my job. I have come to appreciate it more now knowing that so many people are desperately seeking a job and can't find one.
5. I am thankful for social media. Sure it can suck up a lot of time but it also keeps you closer to people you wouldn't otherwise get to speak too. Love keeping up with my missionary friends!
6. I am thankful for choices. I know, I know, if you know me you know that I am not overly effective when needing to make a choice but the fact that I HAVE a choice about where to live, work, worship, how many kids to have, what to eat, where to go, ect, ect is pretty great.
7. I am thankful for crockpots...what time savers.
8. I am thankful for marriage...what an amazing thing God created!
9. I am thankful for hot water heaters...especially when they work.
10. I am thankful for kids' health.
11. I am thankful for technology...these are getting shorter!
12. I am thankful for the people in my Sunday School class, that they challenge me and make me see things from a different perspective.
13. I am thankful for a garage to park my car in rather than running through the rain to put my babies in the car.
14. I am thankful that both mine and my husband's grandmas are all still living with good health - it is an awesome experience that my kids know all of their great grandmas!
15. I am thankful for my son's preschool and what they have done for Jeremiah - I watch him grow in amazing ways and know that a lot of it has to do with his education from UCCC.
16. I am thankful that I can carry a Bible and pray wherever, whenever I want.
17. I am thankful for the right to vote.
18. I am thankful for my Tivo. :-)
19. I am thankful for $2 Happy Meal Tuesdays at "Hot Donalds" as Jey would say.
20. I am thankful for modern day conveniences...Starbucks, $3 car washes, microwaves, ect.
21. I am thankful that I am not hungry right now, that I had a choice of what to fix for dinner, and I have food in my house for tomorrow's meal-S. There are a lot, I mean A LOT of people...children...who do not have this luxury and will not have this luxury.
22. I am thankful for time off for National Holidays.
23. I am thankful that I learned how to use coupons correctly - I'm amazed at how much money I WAS spending of food and how little I have to spend now.
My friend (and cousin-in-law), Aaron Murray, taught our Sunday School class this morning and shared a quote with us (which I probably won't quote correctly). Basically he said, "What if you only had the things today that you were thankful for yesterday". I can't seem to get that off my mind. I am thankful, I am and I tell God what I am thankful for when I feel thankful. However, busy schedules, stressors in life, and other lame excuses cause me to forget to say "thank you" to God. Could I really live today with the things I only "remembered" to be thankful for yesterday? Not on your life! So, lastly to finish this list leading up to Thanksgiving, the thing I am MOST MOST MOST thankful for....
24. God's grace. That He chooses to bless me in spite of me.
Saturday, November 19, 2011
Well we can add a couple of words to the list of things Ava says...
Shoes, Socks, and Hats
She is definitely going to be a girly-girl! I caught her and my neice the other day trying on all of Ava's socks and hats followed by her shoes. Here we go...
Thursday, November 17, 2011
Thursday, November 3, 2011
"Gibber, Gabber, Mama, Gibber, Gabber, Gibberish"
That is what Ava says most of the time and let me tell you, she says it ALL the time. This girl is a talker although it's taking her a while to say actual words. Because I want to remember, here is her current word list...
"Tank Tou" (Thank you)
Wuv Woo (Love you)
Tuesday, November 1, 2011
That's how long it has been since I last posted (until yesterday). It is certainly NOT because I don't have anything to say...I have A LOT to say actually and no time to say it! Perhaps I'll catch you all up soon...and for my own personal journalling. :-) Meanwhile, enjoy a picture of my cute little family as we enjoyed a fun fall day at the pumpkin patch with the kiddos and my neice, Zeda.